Monday Motivation – Setting Personal Boundaries
Have you had any thoughts about setting your personal boundaries? Do you find that you spread yourself too thinly, do you find it hard to say no? We talked last week about setting boundaries, and about deciding for yourself what is most important to you.
What do personal boundaries mean to you? Well, my thoughts are that boundaries are where you choose to draw a line, whether that relates to areas of your personal life, your work life or even your aspects of your behaviour. And the best place to start when setting boundaries is with yourself. You will find that these boundaries will come from your inner voice. That voice inside of you that tells you what to do. Your self boundaries are the lines you set yourself to understand your thoughts, your feelings and the way you behave.
By setting personal boundaries it will help us to learn to care for ourselves, and protect our time and our energies. We can then progress onto developing better relationships with our friends and family. But you need to put yourself first in this.
Make a start, and go at a pace that suits you. Whether you rush into it and want to change your world immediately. Or if you would rather go at a slower pace, and start to plan and work towards achieving self control boundaries. It is entirely up to you. You might find it difficult to make immediate and instant changes, it sometimes takes a bit longer! Especially if you are hanging onto your old ways. But don’t forget, your boundaries are under your control, you make the decisions here!
It might help you to think about a time when you put yourself first? Or, failing that, does anyone else spring to mind? Someone that you have witnessed putting themselves first – someone that you admire for doing so?
Think about your personal rules that you set yourself? Rules around food habits – what you eat, when you eat and how you eat. Or around manners and behaviour to others – how you treat other people? And perhaps even your attitude in life, what are your thoughts and beliefs? Make a note of these personal rules, these will set the boundaries for you. But in starting this exercise, in setting your own personal boundaries, make sure you treat yourself kindly. Respect yourself first and foremost.
Try it and see what happens, see what you come up with!
I hope you find these tips helpful. It would be good to hear what you think about my ideas, and anything else you have come up with. Tell me what you think by posting your comments below. Why don’t you Share this with your friends and family by clicking the Facebook icon or following us on Twitter?
About the Author: Carole Langman works behind the scenes at Bowerland Cottage Holidays and Devon Dogs as the Business Manager. Her office is always a hive of activity, and with the vast amounts of work Carole has, we never really know how she gets through it all! To unwind, she loves gardening, hikes around Bowerland, travelling and writing.