The Relationship Bank Account
I like to look at the relationship that we have with our dogs like a bank account. Positive interactions pay into the bank account, negative interactions withdraw from it. The ultimate aim is that the balance is nice and healthy.
How is your relationship with your dog? Do you share lots of positive interactions with your dog each and every day? Or do you find that you spend more time getting frustrated at your dog for doing something wrong?
The secret to success is all in the mindset; rather than think ‘what don’t I want,’ switch it to ‘what do I want’. If you turn it around and think in a solutions framework rather than a problems framework, you’ll find you’ll enjoy many more positive interactions with your dog, leading to a super boosted relationship bank account.
Here’s a couple of examples of turning problems into solutions:
1. WHAT DON’T I WANT:
I don’t want my dog jumping up on visitors when they arrive
2. WHAT DO I WANT:
I do want my dog to remain on their bed when visitors arrive
3. WHAT DON’T I WANT:
I don’t want my dog to bolt from the car when I open the boot
4. WHAT DO I WANT:
I do want my dog to remain in the car until I release them
Here’s the thing, if you think of the solution, or what you do want, it gives you something tangible and something to work with. If you know WHAT it is that you want your dog to do, it means you can then train that particular behaviour.
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About the Author: Kelly Murrell helps out with some of the work in the office at Devon Dogs, particularly with marketing and advertising. She used to work in the office at East Bowerland Farm, but recently moved to Vancouver Island, Canada with her husband. She is an avid dog trainer and regularly posts dog training tips for Devon Dogs, Bowerland and Progressive Paws.