Tempers – Do you have one, or do you admit to having one?
It is interesting how anger, and having a temper, is looked down upon. We all admit to being happy and positive, but we don’t like to recognise our own flip side, especially when it comes to anger. Perhaps in our early lives we were told off if and when we lost our tempers, and especially if it was directed against others. These days it is recognised that it is important to express your anger, but you just need to make sure it is in an appropriate way!
Not all anger is bad for you. People get angry for a variety of reasons, all of which are important to the individual. Different things affect us in different ways and at different times. Try and remember that when the anger is directed towards you, it may be that you just happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time! No-one actually knows what the other person is going through, sometimes we are on the receiving end of a whole raft of other people’s angst.
But it is important to try to keep your temper, where appropriate, and just make sure you pick your battles wisely. It doesn’t take much to blow a fuse – and to let sparks fly. Something can irritate you and bring to you boiling point, and then you lash out – normally against some unfairness or injustice which may or may not be justified. But you know the old saying, walk a mile in other men’s shoes and see how it feels. Look at the situation from their perspective if you can.
And everything passes, both the bad times and believe it or not, the good times. In future months and years, what is going on right now today and what is really bothering you at this precise moment, will probably be just a dim and distant memory.
I hope you find these tips helpful. It would be good to hear what you think about my ideas, and anything else you have come up with. Tell me what you think by posting your comments below. Why don’t you Share this with your friends and family by clicking the Facebook icon or following us on Twitter?
About the Author: Carole Langman works behind the scenes at Bowerland Cottage Holidays and Devon Dogs as the Business Manager. Her office is always a hive of activity, and with the vast amounts of work Carole has, we never really know how she gets through it all! To unwind, she loves gardening, hikes around Bowerland, travelling and writing.