Resilience — Do you have what it takes?


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Resilience is not something you are born with or that you can learn throughout life.  It isn’t a fixed thing, and it isn’t just about endurance. Resilience is a muscle, just like many other muscles in our body. You can build it up and develop it. Resilience comes from deep within us as well as when we gather comfort from outside of us.

Do you have a fighting spirit? One way of checking is to look inside yourself during your toughest moments. The moments that are really painful to deal with. Look for the beam of hope inside you. It can help bring you back up to the surface again.

We all suffer loss:

— the loss of a job,

— the loss of a relationship,

— the loss of a life

The most important thing is how we deal with it.

The first thing to consider is to give yourself permission to feel all emotions, to feel happiness even in the wake of tragedy.  And build up new relationships, develop different aspects of your life.  Give yourself permission to try.

Value life, find a way to keep going. It may be on a different path than what you had imagined it would be. But go with the flow. Life is about connections, and interactions with the world around you. Face up to your fears.

Resilience is not something you are gifted with at birth, or something that you inherit. Resilience is built up by not avoiding it. Take reasonable risks and learn by your mistakes. Don’t be risk-adverse. Treat mistakes as a learning opportunity.

Next week I will share with you my Top 5 Tips on Building up Your Resilience

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About the Author: Carole Langman works behind the scenes at Bowerland Cottage Holidays and Devon Dogs as the Business Manager. Her office is always a hive of activity, and with the vast amounts of work Carole has, we never really know how she gets through it all! To unwind, she loves gardening, hikes around Bowerland, travelling and writing.

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