Meaningful Ways To Improve Your Life by Carole Langman
Sometimes things happen that just seem to push you over the edge. Do you know those times? When your normal way of coping with life’s problems seems to disappear out of the window? And your inner critic, your inner dialogue with yourself, takes over. And this inner voice builds up an exaggerated story in your head. Problems magnify, solutions seem to disappear or become non-existent.
Break down the pressure points into manageable chunks
At this crucial stage, at these particular moments in your life, it is really helpful if you can break down the pressure points into manageable chunks. Here are my Top Tips to help you to find meaningful ways to deal with these particularly stressful times:
- Write everything down. Everything that is bothering you, that is on your mind, no matter how big or small
- Put a ring around your biggest stressor… the thing that jumps out at you.
- Isolate what is most challenging you at this precise moment, identify the specific details into bite size chunks
- Don’t get lost in the magnitude of everything. Just try to deal with what is immediate. Manage it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute
- Give yourself permission to feel as you do and don’t feel ashamed of your feelings. Connect to your inner voice, listen to yourself. These are just thoughts after all
Feelings aren’t always comfortable
Feelings aren’t always comfortable but make sure you give yourself plenty of time to explore them. At times of extreme stress it is normal to experience anxious or depressed feelings. Don’t just dismiss them, or try to put them out of your head. Instead put a label on them, if that helps.
- Allow yourself to feel the suffering, the uncomfortable feelings.
- Work through them, don’t deny them.
- But go easy on yourself.
- Make sure you take care of you.
- Make sure you use your Self-Care strategies we talked about in previous blogs.
After you have experienced a time of great stress, write down the things you have learnt about yourself. It is not always bad news, in fact most often you will find that you grow and develop as an individual once you emerge from the debris.
Things to include would be:
- What personal strengths did you bring to the fore?
- How have your relationships grown and developed throughout this time?
- What new doors have been opened to you? (ie as one door closes, another one opens)
- Seek out the silver lining from your cloudy time
- Look at any hidden benefits that may have come to the surface
It is not all doom and gloom, in fact some of the biggest lessons we learn is when we emerge from a difficult period in our lives. These times will always be a challenge, but with challenges comes growth.
Check out more of my Monday Motivation Blogs HERE. Follow me on my path of Self-Care. And don’t forget to let me know what you do in order to look after yourself. Next week we will talk about Daily Micro moments you can put into place to better care for yourself.