Learning from Life’s Patterns
Life seems to come around in patterns, and the same things seem to happen time after time. Have you ever heard of the saying that ‘Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” Life has a funny way of teaching us lessons that we need to learn. What I mean by that is, when there is something you need to learn, something that you need to change or work on, you will find that the same situation continually arises, and repeats itself until you either understand the lesson, or find a better, healthier way of dealing with a particular issue. You may initially feel that it is just a coincidence that these things repeat themselves, but eventually the pattern or lesson is obvious. This could be situations around relationships, or work, or just life in general.
One question to ask yourself…
Do I find myself in the same situation repeatedly? Could my behaviour somehow be causing it or adding to the problem? If you find that the same issues keep coming up time and time again, why don’t you take a look at how you are dealing with these particular issues. Is there a pattern emerging? Are you repeating or mirror imaging the issues that are being shown to you? Have you thought about taking a step back and trying to find a different way to resolve the issues. Are you taking things too personally?
In order to change your mindset, to change how you think about the issues, look at these situations as opportunities to learn, rather than problems or issues. And rather than reacting and responding, think about what you could learn in this particular situation. And of course, the really important thing to hang onto is to always be true to yourself.
A lesson in humility and gratitude
We may think that our lives are different than others and that what happens to us, does not really affect other people around us. But nothing could be farther from the truth. At times we could all definitely benefit by undertaking a lesson in humility, or gratitude. It may even be helpful to learn a little more empathy and to see things from the other person’s perspective. After all, you could be holding yourself back by not making any changes which could boil down to a fear of change (which is actually a fear of failure), and the patterns will keep repeating and repeating until you eventually learn the lessons.
Most importantly, instead of reacting to difficult situations that arise, every time that something challenging comes up, look on it as an opportunity to learn. Listen to your feelings, listen to how your body is reacting to a particular situation. Even if you don’t recognise it as it is happening, take note of your instincts. In time you will understand your patterns, you will observe what you thought were coincidences, but make sure you take a step back in order to reflect and see what is really happening.
Be alert, be open, be attentive and recognise your lessons to help you to live life to the full.
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